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Gay men have more sex then me

(I'm feeling contemplative)

Had a great conversation with a young gay man about his college studies. He told me that he was writing his Masters dissertation on the culture of gay men. He made some very interesting points but some I flatly disagree. He asserts that gay men have not been taught the fundamentals of moral behavior, implying that gay men are promiscuous because they do not have a strong moral base. I was baffled by his judgment. I could not help but strongly disagree. The following is basically what I told him.

Men and women are raised in different ways in different households, true. But we have a fundamental understanding of an “American” way of doing things. And those morays are deeply rooted in gender. I would wager it is similar to those in other industrialized nations

I have long believed that gay men have more sexual opportunities because of some very key elements different from the average straight guy. First to my mind, gay men are not concerned about pregnancy. I suppose that goes without saying, but not really. When you have that constant pregnancy issue looming in your head, and all the implications of pregnancy, you tend to be more selective as a woman. That is not to say that straight men wouldn’t sex up any girl that would take them, but it is the woman that are cautious and not so willing to be sexual with whomever they may find attractive in the moment.

Gay men can be sexually random, or could be sexually random before HIV hit the scene, with anyone that they may have fancied at any given moment. They could do this because, one, they had no concern for pregnancy, therefore, no real need to be selective.

Second, men as a general rule are taught at an early age, through media, pals, fathers, and the average guy on the street, that sex is one of the most important pursuits a man can aspire. The more the manlier. Women are to be hunted and conquered. This pursuit and accomplishment makes you better then the guy with “less game”. The rub is the women. Women are taught, through the same sources, that they are to run, resist, control, dole, and be selective. Women are told that sex is a weapon of control and is to be experienced sparingly and with conditions. Women understand that they are the ones that get pregnant; they are the ones that are seen as loose, slutty, a whore, tramp, out-of-wedlock, harlot that was asking for it. Therefore she must be weary and always vigilant to men’s advances, or as they say “why buy the cow when the milk is free”. There are no pejoratives for men who want to have sex with multiple partners, unless you consider stud, manly, lady killer, charmer, ‘The Man’, or all around playa, to be negatives. Doubt it.

Therefore if you take the women out of the mix, what’s left but gay men that have no boundaries to their sexual desires. Their morals are no different than their straight counter-parts; they simply do not have the same constraints. So for me it is not a matter of morality and more a matter of opportunity. Two men hunting are going to result in a lot more pelts, so to speak.

My young gay friend followed with “So why aren’t Lesbians just as promiscuous?” For all the reasons I stated above. Women are raised to control their sexual desire. It is not acceptable for a women, lesbian or not, to be sexual for the pure physical enjoyment of it. This is not to be tolerated. Women are to be in love in order for sex to be considered or real or valid. Is this a good thing? It certainly has its merit, but it has its pitfalls as well.
As women we are left with two inadequate extremes of sexual behavior choices. Either you are pure or you are a slut. We have yet to truly embrace the middle ground. Worse still, we have women condemning other women for unlady-like behavior. Society as a whole is uncomfortable with women’s sexuality. Why should society, when women perpetuate the myth hook line and sinker. We can be our own worst enemy’s ladies.

I’m no Pollyanna; I understand that sexual behavior can’t be summed up in the concept of pregnancy and general social construct. There are numerous variables and countless exceptions. Still, I believe this is as good a theory as any.

My young gay friend did not dig my theory and will continue with his premise. I don't resent that. I resent that as a gay man he will have more sex then me.....bastard....;)

“The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.”
Friedrich Nietzsche

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Posted Oct 26, 08 by NatureJunkie (

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So are going to submit this blog and get a master's degree? You could--just flesh it out a little (no pun intended).

I agree with your theory; you've expressed what I've always thought on this topic.