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My Response To Another Person's Blog About "Wanting What We Cannot Have" ...
(I'm feeling chipper)
Okay, Okay...
I KNOW... I rant and run on for a billion and five years whenever something strikes me... But, it's one of the reasons you love me... Right?!
So, this was about wanting what we cannot have... It most likely doesn't make sense (it's REALLY late/early)... But, again, my response was either longer, or just as long...
Here it is...
My mother told me a LONG time ago, "Pick and choose your battles carefully... Life is too short to fight for EVERYTHING..."
She also told me to never say, "I can't." I could admit I didn't want to, or that something was difficult... But, "can't" was not an option... I guess I took that to heart (After hours of repeating that," I can't do it mommy!" And then trying, and succeeding)...
At the end of the day, life is unpredictable... No matter how well you prepare yourself for the next chapter, you are likely to come across a word you haven't learned yet... It is up to you to translate, and look it up... Or, move on and not bother if it is not that significant to the story.
In my experience, sometimes it is better to desire something, and think it is amazing and imagine that it will fulfill you, than to get it and find out it wasn't all you thought it would be... I think a lot of things that we feel are great losses, and misfortunes to "miss out" on, are often disasters that we unknowingly avoided... The thought of not being able to "get" or "achieve" them, is more or less just the desire to have anything and everything we think we want, tricking us into having deeper "feelings" towards them than we actually do. Pride… It is a strong force inside of us that sometimes tricks us into feeling stronger desire for something that we do not actually care all that much about, because we know we cannot easily attain it… Human beings do not like to "fail" at anything… Because of that, they tend to take rejection, or a loss of any kind as a challenge… Feeling that by defeating the challenge by attaining what it is they could not have, would somehow fulfill a void… In all reality, the void tends to exist regardless… Most of the time it was there to begin with…
So, on one side you can look at it as a misfortune to "miss" something, or not obtain something you desire... Or, look at it as avoiding something that would, in the end, be a greater misfortune for you having received it...
Perception is the key ;)
(If this makes no sense I am sorry... I tend to run off on tangents, and at this hour I lose focus quite often...)
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