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Patterns Are In

(I'm feeling content)

Yes I'm talking about plaid and argyle but it seems like everyone has a pattern when it comes to relationships.
I guaruntee that you the reader will find that you fall into at least one of these categories.

Pattern 1 - The one where you only fall for people that are totally unattainable. Emotionally, out of your league, in another relationship or distance-wise.
It's delightfully convenient to shut yourself off from ever having to take on the responsibility of a REAL relationship by saying that the one true love of your life is in Spain, or dating someone else, or has commitment isssues.

( Remember: The world keeps spinning, so chase the horizon all you want. You won't catch it.)

Pattern 2 - There's the one where you date the same person in different forms over and over and over again and then wonder why it never works out.
ie. The stoner musician type.

(Remember: The definition of maddness is doing the same thing over and over but expecting a different result.)

Pattern 3 - Only dating the ridiculously beautiful, handsome, sexy, physically ideal person. Then you get bored when you realise that they're completely
lacking in any kind of character or depth, which let's face it, most normal people develope during that awkward phase of their life when they first came
to terms with their own insecurities.
The rare person that has been beautiful all their life and has been told so, never had to develope any other sides tothemselves. Why bother?
If you find yourself caught in this pattern you may also find that once the initial thrill of dating someone so attractive wears off, that you try and pull personality out of them. Psycho-analysing them, looking for a dark side, or trying to get them to take on interests that really have
no hope of sticking. ie. hiking, painting, or even something as simple as getting them to read books you've read.

(Remember: You can take a Ford Model to McDonald's, but you can't make her eat.)

Pattern 4 - Going through lengthy periods of solitary single-ness, until you meet someone under your ideal circumstances. They meet your strangely
high standards or at least most of them, and then you load the relationshi[ with huge expectations which promptly blow up in your over romantisized face.
Then you begin to convince yourself that everything is as rosey and idilic as your original perception, despite evidence to the contrary.
Also known as putting all your expectations and faith in one basket.

(Remember: Optimism can turn quite easilly into delusion.)

In order to maintain a relationship and make it last do you need to break your pattern?

When a couple actually makes it work, is it because they found that same pattern or at a least a compatible one, in a another person?
OR
Is it because they finally broke their pattern and took a chance on the unfamiliar?

Category: Love & Relationships

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